Dear Nicole... I love him but it's getting exhausting
Updated: Jul 1
By Nicole Clevenger
Dear Nicole... My ex and I have been taking steps to restart our relationship. They were previously seeing someone else, II was okay with that until I found out that the other person wasn't aware that we were still seeing each other.
My ex claims that he has confused feelings for me but refused to tell the other person in the situation. He said he needed time to think about his feelings for me, which I allowed but it's been going on near two months and I'm tired of it. I don't want to give up the progress we’ve made because I love him but it's getting exhausting!
It’s difficult when you love someone, and you’re trying so hard to make it work, but the other person seems like they’re not working with you.
If he’s taken two months and he’s still “confused” about his feelings for you… Maybe that is your answer.
If your ex wasn’t disclosing to the other person they were still seeing you - that’s a bit of a red flag to me. Relationships are about communication, and the importance of that communication is doubled in open or poly relationships. Everyone needs to be on the same page.
You need to talk to him. Explain to him that you’ve given him all the time you’re able to. Basically, he needs to shit or get off the pot. You need to know what you want from him, and then see if he is able to give that to you.
I know you don’t want to give up the progress you’ve made but don’t settle for a relationship that’s making you unhappy just because you’ve put time into it. That doesn’t mean give up on him. But you love him, so you owe it to yourself to try your hardest to make it work. Just know yourself when it becomes too much. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship.
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